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The easiest way to avoid regrets is to ask yourself this question, "If not now, when?" It's a powerful way to put life and our decisions about how we spend our time into perspective"
Posted by Cindy on 12/28/2019, 10:06 am
Posted by Cindy on 12/28/2019, 12:38 pm, in reply to "Saturday gratitudes..."
1. A nice lunch with Kim yesterday. We have been friends since second grade and we went out to celebrate my birthday! Had a wonderful salad at Applebee’s! Lots of laughter! |
2. Weight Watchers. It has literally saved my life! I feel so much better now than I did when I weighed 325 pounds! And I think of this as a lifestyle now, instead of a diet! In the past I would always think in the back of my mind, I will lose this weight and then I can enjoy donuts, or sweets, or (fill in the blank)... and then I would lose some weight and politely gain it all back. I have to admit that when I started doing WW 3 1/2 years ago, I still had that same mind set. Thankfully over time I have changed my way of thinking! I am so thankful for that!
3. A program that works even when the scale doesn’t go the way I want it too! I know this weight will come off!
4. Going to an engagement party for my sister in law last night. Paula was married to my brother Mike who died from ALS 6 weeks after my mom died back in 2007. She is getting married and invited us to their gathering to celebrate. She and Max like to travel, so the theme was “Around the World with Paula and Max” and featured food from each place they have been - Greece, Italy, England, and many of the states. I saved some points so I would have a cushion in case I wanted to eat something, but only had 1 baby carrot! I chose to talk to the people there over eating!
5. My hip is still sore, but I think is a little better. Icing it again today and have another appointment on Monday at the chiropractor for a follow up adjustment if I need it!
Not a gratitude ....
Posted by Sue on 12/28/2019, 12:27 pm, in reply to "Saturday gratitudes..."
but just what's on my mind this morning. Remember me telling you about my high school best friend having a baby and placing it for adoption and me not even knowing about it? |
And, then about a year ago, this daughter (Linda) contacted me asking for information about her mom and if I possibly had any idea who her father might be? We become good friends, and she and her fiancé came to the lake to visit just before we left.
We had a great visit and promised to do it again in the summer once we returned to Michigan. They were planning to marry in the Spring. Things were great.
Linda contacted me yesterday to let me know that Steve (her fiancé) had taken his life the day after Christmas. Her world is shattered, and my heart breaks for her and all Steve's loved ones. Sorry, but I had to share this with someone other than Bill. Suicide SUCKS - -
Thanks to each of you....
Posted by Sue on 12/29/2019, 12:17 pm, in reply to "Not a gratitude ...."
for your kind, understanding responses. Linda is a strong, resilient young woman, and she'll get through this. She has a very caring support system and realizes she couldn't have prevented this. I don't know the details, but she did tell me Steve had been having issues since his shoulder surgery in Oct. She also mentioned he had resumed drinking. Alcohol and depression are a lethal mix...|
Oh, Sue that is so sad
Posted by Delta on 12/29/2019, 4:06 am, in reply to "Not a gratitude ...."
I am sorry that your new friend and by extension you are having to go through this. Such a sad, sad thing. |
This is heartbreaking.....
Posted by Beverly on 12/28/2019, 4:56 pm, in reply to "Not a gratitude ...."
Oh... if he could have just held on... But, he didn't. I am so, so very sad for you and Linda. |
Oh, Sue! That is so incredibly sad.
Posted by Paula on 12/28/2019, 12:52 pm, in reply to "Not a gratitude ...."
She must be devastated...sad, angry, sad again. I used to think that people who committed suicide were just selfish. I know now that when a person enters that dark, dark place, they can't think about the consequences. Also, there are often no signs that a person is at that point. |
Right before I left the hospital, a client came to his appointment. Seemed to be doing well. I'd been seeing him for over 3 years and knew him well. He had a long history of suicide attempts.
Left our session and made a suicide attempt the next night. No signs and I am really good at picking up signs of all kinds of things. He came through it but a little over a month after I left the hospital, he did kill himself.
Jenee had been seeing him and was devastated. Told her that it was not her fault, that after knowing him as long as I did, he masked things well.
Sorry to go on and on when probably all you need is some comforting words.
Re: Oh, Sue! That is so incredibly sad.
Posted by Sue on 12/28/2019, 2:30 pm, in reply to "Oh, Sue! That is so incredibly sad."
Thank you my friends....yes, this is just so hard to understand, and yet I realize depression is a disease...a dark, evil disease. We have many extended family members and friends (especially firefighters) who have completed suicide....and it's tragic for all. |
I'm so glad Linda reached out to me...she said I'm like her surrogate mom, and she's extremely comfortable sharing her deepest feelings with me. Steve is only 41 years old...an entire lifetime ahead of him... now over! It's just so sad.
Sue...I am so sorry to read this..
Posted by Cindy on 12/28/2019, 12:43 pm, in reply to "Not a gratitude ...."
How very tragic! I’m glad she could reach out and talk to you. I know that had to help her a lot. Sending you a (((((HUG))))). I will keep you all in my prayers. Feel free to talk to us all you want about this or anything for that matter. Our son in law took his own life a few years back and it truly is a horrific thing for those who are left behind to deal with. |
Re: Sue...I am so sorry to read this..Cindy
Posted by Sue on 12/28/2019, 2:32 pm, in reply to "Sue...I am so sorry to read this.."
I'm sorry to hear of your SIL....you know first-hand how tragic this is. It can never be "fixed".|
Cinq Choses Pour Moi
Posted by Krista on 12/28/2019, 11:54 am, in reply to "Saturday gratitudes..."
1 - gorgeous sunny day here. 3C (38F?) |
2 - heard through the grapevine that Trish is coming back to work Jan 2. I'm scheduled to be on air 'til Friday so maybe she's just coming back to clean up emails etc the first 2 days. That's cool with me! Still waiting for official word but boss is on vacation til Jan 2
3 - Ray is making cabbage rolls for supper - LOVE his cooking and they are really good!
4 - only working 730- 10 at gym tomorrow and then I am staying for at least an extra half hour to ease back into ezercise. That's my plan to get rolling in the right direction again
5 - The All Request Show on NYE - Ray will come in with me for the 3rd year and it's all requests from 8 to midnight with lots of prizes to give away too. Always FUN FUN FUN!
Posted by Cindy on 12/28/2019, 12:20 pm, in reply to "Cinq Choses Pour Moi"
Interact on the show with you and talk to the listeners? I think that would be a hoot! Let me know what time this will be on as I would love to tune in! |
Posted by Delta on 12/28/2019, 11:47 am, in reply to "Saturday gratitudes..."
Feeling better. We felt like getting out a bit yesterday. |
The nice weather that we have had for the past week.
A new contract that has turned things around.
Watching young squirrels play.
A nice visit with my neighbor yesterday.
Posted by Cindy on 12/28/2019, 12:26 pm, in reply to "Saturday Gratitudes"
So glad you are feeling better! And that you got that new contract! That is awesome! Congratulations! |
Glad to hear...
Posted by Krista on 12/28/2019, 11:54 am, in reply to "Saturday Gratitudes"
.. that you are feeling better and awesome re the new contract turning things around! |
Posted by Paula on 12/28/2019, 10:40 am, in reply to "Saturday gratitudes..."
I invited the neighbors behind me to come over for pizza tonight. It's a big deal for me because it represents an effort on my part to reach out. I usually would see Steve a lot over the summer when we were both out working in the yard but since I didn't do any of that this year, I've not seen them. Judy has a lot of health problems so glad she will come. |
My Christmas tree is still drinking water. I don't want to take it down until the needles start falling. I hate seeing Christmas trees laying out on curbs when it's all over. They look so sad to me.
Workman called yesterday and is going to come out and give me an estimate for painting my bedroom and get started on my closet where the black mold is.
Sunny! We've had an amazing Autumn and Winter weather so far.
Bill to come take care of the animals when I'm at work. It's a relief to have him bug-free and still willing to help with them.
Posted by Cindy on 12/28/2019, 12:25 pm, in reply to "Mine"
Turn your tree into compost, and then use it in your gardens? I’m not sure how that works, but think it would be a great thing to do, and think you would love the thought of your tree “living on” helping your gardens! My sister has this composting barrel and loves it! Just a thought! |
Have fun with your neighbors! I think that is a great idea! Love that you are putting yourself out there more! You are such a wonderful person with a great sense of humor and I KNOW anyone spending time with you will have fun! Wish we lived closer!
All great to hear
Posted by Krista on 12/28/2019, 11:55 am, in reply to "Mine"
Have fun tonight and enjoy your tree for as long as possible |
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