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Ken is discouraged tonight… Posted by Cindy on 5/12/2025, 10:07 pm I thought PT was coming today and I reached out to her to see when she was coming. She said that Ken had one more final evaluation and then they felt that he was doing really well and wouldn’t need PT to come out any more. I thought this would make Ken happy but he has suddenly gotten very depressed and looks at this like they have given up on him! He didn’t want to eat supper tonight, and said he didn’t want to go for a walk. I feel like he is a different person and starting to give up. I am hoping when the PT supervisor comes out to do his evaluation tomorrow that she can make him see that they are just so pleased with his performance and that is why they are going to stop coming out - not that they don’t think he can get any better. Not sure what I want you guys to do about this-just putting it out there. I hope things get better tomorrow.

Oh Cindy. I wonder Posted by Cindyh on 5/13/2025, 4:01 pm, in reply to "Ken is discouraged tonight…" If that gave him something to look forward to and feel better about. Can you talk to his Dr.

Everything seems dark and hopeless when depression sets in. Posted by Paula on 5/13/2025, 9:40 am, in reply to "Ken is discouraged tonight…" Two days can have the exact same pluses and minuses. Without depression, one can see the positive and feel hopeful. The second day, the shades have come down and nothing seems possible and it's dark and awful. My head started 'buzzing' as I wrote this because the memories of when Ingo there are so scary. I hope he is open to hearing and able to accept the facts from the home PT. He may not be able to.hear it from you right now. Hugs, BIG hugs

Oh, gosh... Posted by Joan on 5/13/2025, 6:58 am, in reply to "Ken is discouraged tonight…" I think Delta had some excellent ideas for you to consider. As before, I think it's the "change" that is worrisome for Ken, too. I'm sorry this is happening for Ken and for YOU! I know it's hard on both of you! (((Cindy)))

I would almost bet that Posted by Delta on 5/12/2025, 10:37 pm, in reply to "Ken is discouraged tonight…" whether he knows it or not that he will miss having them come out, too. When Mama was recovering from that long hospital stay she didn't feel like getting out much and though she complained she looked forward to contact with her team. She went through a depression phase after they left and didn't even want to continue her exercises for a time. When she started losing ground quickly she let me talk her into doing mini sessions for a few days and was soon back to doing all the exercises they left for her. She didn't have any friends here and had only us, my kids and grandkids for company so I know it got boring and lonely for her. Is there an affordable gym nearby that Ken can do some gentle exercises, perhaps water walking or something to get him out into people and so that he can measure his progress. When you can go one more minute or one more half lap it seem to be more of an incentive for some people. Are there any senior citizen's centers in your area that do things he would be interested in? I realize that some are better than otheres and some of them are great. I want to join the one at the lake because they do so many interesting and fun things. They also have senior exercise classes as well as meals most days. Check into it. He might thrive being around others doing something that he enjoys. At any rate please contact them before they get there and explain so that they can know what direction to go in before they step in the door. Right now Ken probably needs something to take his mind off his health and someone to be around. I hope there is something in your area to fit that bill. Hoping for the best for both of you!

Oh no. Posted by Beverly on 5/12/2025, 10:25 pm, in reply to "Ken is discouraged tonight…" Yes.. I hope the pt supervisor makes it clear that it's really a positive thing. How frustrating for you. And... for Ken, with his current outlook. Hugsto both of you!!

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