The easiest way to avoid regrets is to ask yourself this question, "If not now, when?" It's a powerful way to put life and our decisions about how we spend our time into perspective"

Friday gratefuls? Posted by Paula on 9/19/2025, 1:02 pm A

Mine Posted by Cindyh on 9/19/2025, 1:44 pm, in reply to "Friday gratefuls?" Been getting rid of a lot of stuff that John cleaned out of the shed and I’ve been sorting through also. Will donate a lot also. Starting to feel less anxiety over that. I expect it to take a couple more weeks to finish everything Went to counseling and that went well Got my hair cut yesterday Eating going good still Praying Krista’s Dad gets positive news today

Mine Posted by Paula on 9/19/2025, 1:26 pm, in reply to "Friday gratefuls?" Unless something drastic happens, I am going on my trip. Spain planned for mid-October to early November. I just couldn't get excited about the trip and wasn't sure if I should cancel or go. I finally figured out that what was missing was time at the sea to catch my breath and relax. Looked at several places in Spain where I could make that happen but they didn't scratch my itch. Finally realized the thing that was missing was France! Added 3 days and booked an Airbnb with views of the sea in Nice. I've been there before and it will be easy, comfortable and wonderful! I need some France! You get that, right? Can't afford this but caseload is almost full so I should be ok by the beginning of next year. United for letting me make all these changes. This is the second overhaul I've made. Instead of flying into Barcelona, I'll be flying into Nice, via Munich. From Nice, a cheap flight to Barcelona and the rest of the trip is as originally planned. Looking forward to starting PT Monday. Things appear to be going OK with Carin. She said she thinks he just went nuts over the past year because of all the stress of waiting to see if he was going to get out or not. Not hood enough dor me. Still, she said there is a lot to work out. The boys are enjoying him as he is doing a lot of 'guy' stuff with them. They are all so overweight that it's good to see them being more physical. Still just 'wait and see' for me.

Food for thought Posted by Krista on 9/20/2025, 9:34 am, in reply to "Mine " A question to think over when you said "Not good enough for me". Asking this as I love you, what has he done to you?

That's irrelevant. Posted by Paula on 9/20/2025, 11:02 am, in reply to "Food for thought" He was absolutely awful to the person I love most in the world. We will never know for sure whether or not he had oral sex with one of his students. He is out only because his attorney argued that he had poor representation not because he was necessarily innocent. It could have gone for pretrial but the girl, now a young woman, didn't want to go through it again. It would be less egregious if it had happened to me instead of Carin. I know where all of her childhood wounds are and he rubbed salt in every one of them. Is he different now that he is out prison. Carin thinks he is. Time will tell.

This sounds harsher than I intended. Posted by Paula on 9/20/2025, 12:23 pm, in reply to "That's irrelevant. " Sorry. I just have spent so, so, so many hours getting her through damaging things he has said and done. Yes, she's an adult ,blah, blah,blah but I know most of what has kept her attached to someone like him is from the childhood stuff.from my sister and b.i.l. She's spent her while life vacillating between harmful rebellion and sacrificing herself to please and win love.

I'm sorry I didn't realize that he had done things to Carin ! Posted by Krista on 9/20/2025, 3:53 pm, in reply to "This sounds harsher than I intended. " I completely understand. I didn't know he had done bad things to Carin !

Paula... Posted by Beverly on 9/19/2025, 10:54 pm, in reply to "Mine " This is so exciting. I love to hear how you plan. It sounds like the 'before' Paula! Keep us posted. I can only imagine how the Carin stuff is making you feel. It's very hard when you love someone to see their life be so iffy to you. Hugs, sweetie. PT is so good. I am glad you can go.

Aww this is Posted by Cindyh on 9/19/2025, 1:40 pm, in reply to "Mine " Great news Paula. I’ve been waiting to hear this. And 3 more days with wonderful views! Awesome news! Not far off either. Just so excited for you!!! I hope PT goes well also

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