in the first couple of weeks, a colostomy bag is not the worst thing in the world. Yes, it is better without it, and men seem not to adapt to new things as well as women, or want to care for it correctly, but it is something that is fairly easy to get used to. If he has to have one ask, and I will give you a list of things to make sure they have gone over with him, and products to make life easier. They did not do that with my mother when she got one, but my wound care nurse was great and very thorough, so it was a lot easier for me than when my mother had hers.