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Two nurses came Posted by Paula on 7/28/2025, 2:11 pm One was my regular nurse. They didn't see any signs of infection. She said she knows the wound better than anyone and that she sees good blood flow and healthy tissue growing. It's all so confusing. I have avoided making my follow-up appointment with the surgeon but they encouraged me to do that for peace of mind. I really don't want to see him but I guess it's the right thing to do.

Relieved! Posted by Krista on 7/29/2025, 11:30 am, in reply to "Two nurses came" I am so relieved they don't see any sign of infection. When I googled what you were saying, it came back as being one so this is GREAT NEW! Shows me once again how unreliable "Dr Google" can be. Why don't you want to see him? Good opportunity to ask about the missing record and ask if he could send you a letter confirming this "miss" for the future, if you do pursue it.

Good news! Posted by Joan on 7/29/2025, 6:56 am, in reply to "Two nurses came" But, I have to admit... it's confusing, very confusing! I'm glad you're seeing the surgeon. It's the right thing to do! It's just so confusing...

I am so relieved that Posted by Delta on 7/29/2025, 12:46 am, in reply to "Two nurses came" they didn't see infection. I was worried. I can understand you not trusting anyone after what you have been through, but why would they tell you there is no infection when it would be on them if you get worse again?

I’m glad they didn’t see any signs of infection…. Posted by Cindy on 7/28/2025, 6:24 pm, in reply to "Two nurses came" And am glad you are getting into the surgeon just to see what he thinks!!

I have s hard time trusting anyone in this saga Posted by Paula on 7/28/2025, 8:12 pm, in reply to "I’m glad they didn’t see any signs of infection…." But why would 2 nurses lie? It would just fall back on them if they were wrong. A little queasy about the whole thing. Friday feels like a long way away but I'll let the surgeon call it..not that I ever really wanted to see him again!

((( Paula ))) Posted by Krista on 7/29/2025, 11:33 am, in reply to "I have s hard time trusting anyone in this saga" I'm not sure why you don't want to see the surgeon as he is trying to help you surely! Ray is a lot like you and so many others not trusting anyone = esp in the medical field. I have to trust that they are professionals and know what they are doing. If they aren't, they shouldn't be where they are and should have their mistreatment brought to attention. I know you know this and I truly hope Friday's visit with him is in person and that you can have some honest discussion about how you feel

Because he is part of the team that dropped the ball Posted by Paula on 7/29/2025, 1:02 pm, in reply to "((( Paula )))" And caused all this mess.

Did you explain what was done to him? Posted by Delta on 7/29/2025, 2:11 pm, in reply to "Because he is part of the team that dropped the ball" In my experience in the hospitals around here doctors and surgeons are off on weekends unless they are on call. The whole weekend staff are different people who only work weekends, sometimes three-day weekends, never to be seen again until the next weekend. Since major staff are not there on weekends, they are often more lax in their duties. We found that when Mama was in the hospital, not in one but three different hospitals. I also had trouble every time I have been in the hospital on weekends, and a weekend person almost killed my husband after CABG. That is why I always try to stay on weekends to advocate when someone is in the hospital. I have often found the same in having to use ER on weekends. Unless the doctor was in on it, tried to dismiss it, or cover it up, he may be trustworthy.

Paula I understand Posted by Cindyh on 7/29/2025, 3:13 am, in reply to "I have s hard time trusting anyone in this saga" I would have a hard time trusting them also.

I can understand why you are feeling that way. Posted by Beverly on 7/28/2025, 10:25 pm, in reply to "I have s hard time trusting anyone in this saga" It's hard to trust what has been happening. Can someone go with you? Hugs. Love.

Appt with surgeon this Friday nt Posted by Paula on 7/28/2025, 2:34 pm, in reply to "Two nurses came" T

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