bidet is like the ones that I have it is less than ten minutes. I took my toilet seat off and put the new one one but bending further is painful so my son screwed it to the water line and my husband did the other. I hate that I amd not as agile as I used to be and can't do simple things like that again.

Your description of Bill sounds much like my husband was for a few years and getting worse constantly. Yes, my presence seemed to make him much worse too and a hiccup in how things went would make him ballistic. It scared me because he seemed to lose his humanity sometimes. I am so grateful that he was taken off some meds he was on and he is more like he used to be, though he is still a little more volatile than eh ever used to be. I wonder if age does that to some men?