I thought that she was convinced that she was not going to let him come back into their lives. It is truly sad. My stomach did a somersault when I read it. The heart wants what the heart wants. It sounds like there is something about him that she is drawn to, even over the things she hates or has been groomed into thinking she does. We can love or desire a person even while hating their actions.

I know it is devastating for you, but you can't let her decisions for her life hurt yours. That gives him power over you as well. Take that power back because he is not worthy.

While typing this, it just hit me that my food decisions and choices are similar to her decisions regarding him; no matter how bad they are for me, it is something that I know and (laughably) think I can control. This is your chance to break that power the way you want his power over her broken. This is something you CAN control, and it also can serve as an example for her of breaking free.

I am glad that you saw that habit for what it was and also that you turned it around by correcting it at the next meal. I am very proud of you, and you should be proud of yourself.