The easiest way to avoid regrets is to ask yourself this question, "If not now, when?" It's a powerful way to put life and our decisions about how we spend our time into perspective"
I am glad Deborah and Karin both opened up to you. I'm so sorry it is not great news on either front. They love you and they trust you. I'm also glad to see that you realize it's not your job to fix things. That's a tough one. I know. Both of us want to solve problems for people we love - for them to not have them at all. One of the best things we can be for them in a "safe place to break".
You're there for them and we'll be here for you. Love you, Paula.