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Tuesday Grats
Posted by Paula on 6/17/2025, 9:59 am
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Tuesday Grats
Posted by Delta on 6/17/2025, 6:46 pm, in reply to "Tuesday Grats "
Cindy and Ken survived the high winds last night. I hope they don't have much damage.
We had storms all night but they never got severe enough for the warnings to start going off.
I got some good sleep last night. I had not slept well in several nights and fell asleep in my chair for aobut an hour last night after dinner. I woke up and went to bed and was able to go back to sleep. I got up about 4 AM for awhile but got cold and went back to bed to snuggle and get warm and fell asleep again. I ended up getting over 9 hours of sleep. I feel so much better today for it.
Getting rid of more stuff. I'll have all the closets and drawers and cabinets thinned out someday. If we find a smaller place, I don't want to be making these decisions and trying to move but about 2/3 of this stuff won't fit into a house the size I want. I still have things everywhere that my daughter left here three years ago and I just got rid of a bunch of clothes out of the boy's closets in sizes that no one in this family can wear anymore. So far I have found homes for a lot of the newer things. I think I am just going to throw the rest away. I do have some brand new size 40D and 42D bras that I found. Some with tags, some without, but only one of them had ever been worn, and the elastic broke me out because I found out that I have developed an allergy to rubber. I threw that one away, but I hate to throw the rest away since they are new. I ordered them from Bali but noticed that the tags have another name on them. They are made in the style of the soft cup Playtex 18 hour. The ones without tags I took the tags off and washed them but never wore them. If anyone wears that size and wants to try them they are yours for the shipping.
The kids coming in and doing the dusting, sweeping and mopping all the tile floors and vacuuming all the carpets have taken such a burden off my shoulders. I can sweep the high traffic areas and spot mop but now my whole house don't mock me all the time because it hasn't all been done.
Sorry folks, not even checking this for spelling and grmmar. Hope you can make sense of it.
This is not a grateful but if anyone has any thoughts, please chime in. My mother found out today that someone has been using my debit card from her bank account on Amazon. I have not used her debit card since she left here in July of last year, and I only used it at the drug store to pick up her meds then. It never left my sight. I have never put the number on the internet anywhere. I am just on the account for end-of-life purposes or when I am taking care of her. My card is safely in the vault, I checked, so no other family member has been using it. She called the bank today and found out that they have racked up over $1200 since January, only at Amazon. Why she has not been checking her account information better I do not know. All charges are $25-$35. She disputed at the bank but they said that they called Amazon and that I will have to dispute the account with Amazon since it is my card. I called Amazon and they said that they can't find that card number and without an account number and password that I will have to dispute it at the bank and the bank will dispute it with them. The bank disagrees so we ended the banking day at a stalemate.
Tomorrow I am going to call the main branch because I have found that the branch she banks at don't always know what to do so they say that it can't be done (for instance I tried to move money from my personal account into Mama's once and was told that I could not do that because I do not have an account there and I am from out of town. Her account has both mine and her name on it and I was standing there with the card with my name on it in my hand so why couldn't I just move my money from one of my other bank accounts into my account there--"because I don't have an account there." Huh? Anyway, this is how that branch runs. I finally insisted they call the main branch and ask them, and they were told how to do i,t and it was fine after that.)
Hopefully, someone at the main branch can take the dispute for me and get some results. I can't dispute it at Amazon because I don't have an account number and password that is being used with the card and they can't find where those last 4 numbers have been used. Anyway, if anyone has any ideas before I call the bank tomorrow, let me know. She can't afford to lose $1200.
What a mess
Posted by Cindyh on 6/18/2025, 1:22 am, in reply to "Tuesday Grats"
About the Amazon disaster. I hope you get it straightened out soon. That’s just crazy.
Delta
Posted by Beverly on 6/18/2025, 1:19 am, in reply to "Tuesday Grats"
What a fiasco with Amazon and the card and the ghost charges there. I don't know what to tell you except keep trying every avenue you can.
I love hearing about all your clearing out of 'stuff'!!
I am glad family has been so helpful.
Delta
Posted by Cindyh on 6/18/2025, 12:40 am, in reply to "Tuesday Grats"
I wear that size!! I sure could use them. They are soft?
Yes, they are
Posted by Delta on 6/18/2025, 4:35 am, in reply to "Delta"
soft cup and different muted colors.
I have got to stop trying on an article then washing all the rest before I wear them when I order multiples. I just gave my DIL 6 pairs of brand new jeans because the try-on went well so I washed all of them but when I tried wearing them they were not comfortable to wear even though they fit. I just can't wear clothes or shoes if they are not comfortable. I am getting to the point that i have to be very careful with bras and underwear. Any exposed elastic breaks me out now. I ordered some undies the other day. They did not look like the picture and the rolled hem did not cover the elastic somehow but even though I had not tried them on they wouldn't take them back. Shoot me your address on FB messenger (Sharon Snow) and I will get them in the mail for you.
Delta…
Posted by Cindy on 6/18/2025, 12:37 am, in reply to "Tuesday Grats"
I wish I knew what to tell you about the whole credit card issue. It would be nice to know if these charges were online and if so-where did they ship the items to? You would think Amazon could be more helpful. What do they mean they can’t find that card number? Something seems off for sure. And the bank should be more helpful as well. Maybe try googling your problem and see what you find out?
Hopefully you closed this account so they can’t charge anything else.
Glad your kids are helping you! That is wonderful. Love that you are getting rid of things you don’t need. I need to do that as well.
Mine
Posted by Paula on 6/17/2025, 10:25 am, in reply to "Tuesday Grats "
Farrah's brain bleed stopped. I still don't get what it's taken over 24 hours to get a neurosurgeon in. They were at the beach in SC. Laura was in the beach and Matt and Farrah were driving around in the golf cart. Laura heard the sirens from where she was on the beach. Soon after officers approached her and told her it was her daughter. Cannot even imagine. I try to pray but am not very good at it but I am grateful I know 6 wonderful ladies who are!
Dreams are just dreams. Exhausting ones last night. Woke up feeling like I hadn't slept at all.
Someone dear to me sent me an email asking for help with a project she is working on. The project is also dear to me (being non-transparent because if I tried to explain, it would take forever). I knew I didn't have the emotional bandwidth or intellectual/academic energy to be of help. I didn’t know how I was going to convey all of that to her. After texting back and forth with Carin last night, I scrolled through my emails and realized I hadn't replied to Leigh and knew it was time. In one sitting and on my phone, I wrote my reply and it was a very good one. I think she will understand my decision.
Cindy and Ken are safe
I hurt a little bit more today. I think it reflects how emotional distress exacerbates physical problems. Also, I sat way too much yesterday.
Kind of a funny. Yesterday was the hardest day I've had with food since I started. I started the day upset because there was blood on the bathroom floor from my back. The surgeon's office never responded to my outreach messages which was so disappointing. I just felt like crap all the way around and, with news of Farrah, it surely didn't get any better! So, back to the food. Nothing tasted good and I wanted sweets like crazy but k ew if I had them, I would feel 10x worse. Anyway, I made it through but felt some disappointment because I went over my calorie budget. I had to laugh because, on reflection, my calorie budget was 1309 and I ate 1382! This from the woman who are whole cakes and bags of Lindor truffles on a regular basis! I'm killing this Carin says I'm a 'beast' when I put my mind to something!
Paula
Posted by Beverly on 6/18/2025, 1:25 am, in reply to "Mine"
Very, very glad that the brain bleed has stopped.
I hate those dreams that makes a person exhausted from dreaming it all night. I am glad that is over now!!!
They must address the bleeding that is going on.It needs to be looked at. You should hear today. This is an emergency in my book. Hugs, sweetie.
Thank goodness
Posted by Cindyh on 6/18/2025, 1:24 am, in reply to "Mine"
The brain bleed has stopped! What a relief.
Look at you
Posted by Delta on 6/17/2025, 4:34 pm, in reply to "Mine"
and how you have grown. You are a beast when you put your mind to something and you have certainly put your mind to your eating situation and taken control. You have grown from it too because now you can analyze it and figure out things instead of just diving into food. I did have a big smile that you were upset over 73 extra calories. That is a wonderful thing. Keep it up.
Yes, some people hold their emotions in different parts of their bodies and can hurt much more after things that affect them emotionally. I am one and it seems that you are another.
I am so glad to hear that the brain bleed stopped. I want to believe that a neurosurgeon is already up to speed on Farrah's case and just hasn't decided that it is time to operate yet. So many things happen behind the scenes that we don't know about.
It is great that you were able to assess your friend's request and know that you would not be an asset on the project right now and say no. It is awful to get over our heads in things that we can't feel effective on but feel that we just can't say no for whatever reason.