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frustrations Posted by Beverly on 4/6/2026, 3:42 pm Many, sadly. I am having so much anxiety. I didn't realize it, really. I have been crying, anxious, even trembling about anything. I am totally overwhelmed. There is so much to do upon Murray's death. I used to take care of bills, etc until we moved back to Michigan. He just put everything on autopay. It's always not so easy to switch them. So at first I figured out a way to get into accounts and just pay. However, there are many I have to delete Murray and reopen in my name and put on autopay. It's time to get it done. Plus he put things his own business credit card and, although I am on it, it is his and will close eventually when they find out he had passed away. The thought of this has me overwhelmed. So many messages still come to his email. I have his phone. I need to put the 'close' on it all. I have too many health problems. I pulled my hamstring again. I pulled it right before Murray passed away. It took a couple of months to heal. But I did it again a couple of weeks ago...... My foot gets callous's. Podiatrist is shaving them off every 4 weeks. She has had a baby. I saw the other podiatrist and he sent me to get a new arch arthotic. I hope it helps. Of course my insurance doesn't pay anything now..... My ears are ringing so loud. I've had very mild tinnitus in the past. This is very bad.... my hair is falling out.... Right before we moved back to Michigan, I had got a dental bridge attached and one as a removeable partial. The partail ended up not fitting that well and I stopped using it. I have been partially using my front teeth to chew. The result is I have a huge overbite from the pushing and my tmj hurts....... I have neuropathy in both feet because I am PRE diabetic, thus,more and more need to use something to help keep my balance. Enough, Thus, I have lots of medical things to figure out and deal with. Depressing and painful. I never like to talk about it all. I don't like to focus and talk about it much but... I cant deal with it all now. I see my primary next week and will talk to her about all this... anxiety, being overwhelmed, pain, depression, trembling and so much. I will see if I can ask Mike to help me with paperwork stuff. I feel so very weary of it all. I hope it makes sense.

((Beverly)) Posted by Cindyh on 4/7/2026, 10:57 am, in reply to "frustrations" I’m truly sorry and feel For you. Big hugs to you. I cannot imagine. So much to go through and pain on top Of it all. I know how much we all care about you. So much. I hope you can get help for your anxiety and you won’t feel so overwhelmed hopefully and work on it a little at a time

Cindy H Posted by Beverly on 4/7/2026, 4:26 pm, in reply to "((Beverly))" Thanks so much. I appreciate that nice big hug. Your love and support mean so much me, dear friend.

Oh, Beverly... Posted by Joan on 4/7/2026, 6:57 am, in reply to "frustrations" Oh, how I wish I could be there to help you! It must be so overwhelming, so difficult, I can't even imagine! One step at a time... just one step. Take care of one account... just one. Then, do another account. Talk to your doctors, and I do mean talk. Tell them what's happening health wise. If they don't listen, tell them again. Pester them for help if needed! And, above all... remember God is there with you! (((Beverly)))

Joan Posted by Beverly on 4/7/2026, 8:37 pm, in reply to "Oh, Beverly..." Yes... actually, you are here for me. I understand, what you what mean. One thing at a time, yes. I know that Mike will help me with many things. I need to be my advocate. Make sure the doctors need to REALLY exppress what I need and how I am doing. Thank you for the reminders. Thanks for caring and helping. Hugs, dear friend.

((Beverly)) Posted by Delta on 4/6/2026, 11:20 pm, in reply to "frustrations" I am so sorry that you are so overwhelmed. I know that a lot of it stems from grief. I know when my DIL's father passed away, her mother was almost paralyzed for months and months, and for weeks every year near all the important birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays. My DIL had to go over and change everything to her name, get all the autopays set up, cancel credit cards and set up new credit accounts. Getting all that off her shoulders was a tremendous relief to her. Don't hesitate to ask for Mike's help. I am sure that he will be willing to help you. I think after you get all that taken care of, it will make a big difference to your peace of mind. My balance is not as good as it used to be and certain medications make it worse so I know how scary the constant fear of falling can be. I hope that you can get some of the overwhelming medical things taken care of as soon as possible.

Delta Posted by Beverly on 4/8/2026, 12:58 am, in reply to "((Beverly))" For some reason I tried to do it. But... I clearly cannot. And it's really ok. I've come to terms with it. Yes... Mike will help me. Thanks for you thoughts and care. Yes, it's hard when your balance is a problem. I am working to address all these health things. Starting with lists. Thank you so much, friend. Hugs and love to you.

Beverly Posted by Delta on 4/8/2026, 8:31 pm, in reply to "Delta" There is no shame in trying and realizing that you are still not in a good place to do it. I am sure that things are still circling in your head so much that you can't even concentrate. There is just no time limit on grief, and when things start making sense again. Hang in there, dear friend. I hate that you are having to go through this.

We're hear to celebrate the happy times and Posted by Paula on 4/6/2026, 10:44 pm, in reply to "frustrations" to 'hug' and reassure you when you need us. And, as for me, I will also stomp my feet when things are unfair and too difficult. Since you can't stomp because of your ankle and the neuropathy, I will stomp and you can scream! And, I will say silly things and send you silly things on FB for fleeting smiles. Love you so much.

Paula Posted by Beverly on 4/8/2026, 1:01 am, in reply to "We're hear to celebrate the happy times and" I smiled. Thank you for the offer of stamping your feet! 😊🙂😀 Bring on the silly things... love you.

We are here for you Posted by Krista on 4/6/2026, 8:59 pm, in reply to "frustrations" And we love you unconditionally. Lean on us - I wish we lived closer to we could help. Make yourself a list, check things off one at at time. It's overwhelming for sure and would be for any of us. Give yourself some grace. We love you, friend.

Krista Posted by Beverly on 4/8/2026, 8:04 am, in reply to "We are here for you" I am so blessed to have all the from you ladies. I wish we all lived closer too. I will keep adding to my list as I go.. Thank you Krista for you support and love. I love you too.

Beverly…. Posted by Cindy on 4/6/2026, 6:34 pm, in reply to "frustrations" How frustrating this all must be for you! And to have medical issues on top of all the other things you are dealing with is not helping. As for Murrays credit cards - do you have any in just your name? If not I would talk to your bank and see if you can get one through them to use to make payments online or for emergencies. A lot of times they have better interest rates. You may already have a card to do this with but set a goal of just taking care of a couple of accounts a week until you have them all switched over. I’m glad Mike is around to help you with this stuff. Moving to the same town as them was super smart!! I’m hoping your primary care Dr can help you! Make a list of all the questions you have before you go. My balance is not what it used to be and that scares me! I don’t want to fall down! Hang in there and vent whenever you need to. We are here for you! Love you sweetie! It will all get better. It’s just a lot right now.

Cindy Posted by Beverly on 4/8/2026, 8:14 am, in reply to "Beverly…." Thank you for your good suggestions and kind & loving thoughts. You are so dear. I do have my own credit card. Mike will help me move forward. You too, be careful about falling. I love you sweetie.you

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